Tuesday, January 8, 2013

What I want to give my children. . .

This post would have been published on Christmas Eve, if all had gone correctly. :)

Everyone is talking about what they are giving their kids for Christmas.  I'm constantly hearing questions from other parents.  "Did I buy enough?"  "Did I buy too much?"  "Do you think my ___-year-old will like ____?" And comments: "I really wanted to get them ____, but (it was too much, they don't need it, whatever)."

It got me thinking about what I want to give my children.  Not just for Christmas, but overall.  Here is what I came up with.

  • Unconditional Love.  I want them to know that I will love them, forever, no matter what.
  • Safety.  Not only physical safety - that's a given - but emotional safety.  I want them to know that I will always be there to laugh and cry with them, to enjoy the good times with them, and to offer them a hug in the bad times.
  • A sense of "home".  No matter where we are, I want them to know that as long as we're together, it's home.
  • A healthy balance of selflessness and selfishness.  I want them to take care of others, definitely, but I hope I can teach them to take good care of themselves, as well.  For I have learned the hard way that one cannot help others unless they, themselves, are healthy.
  • Spirituality.  I don't care if they end up believing exactly what I believe, so long as they have faith that there is a Greater Power at work in our lives.
  • Laughter.  I want to be a mom who laughs more than I admonish, and who smiles more often than I frown.
  • Responsibility.  I want them to be productive, contributing members of society, throughout their lives.
  • Honesty.  I don't want to sugar-coat life for them.  I want them to see it for what it is.  To quote my favorite poem, Desiderata, "With all its shams, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world."
But, Dearest Miles, and Darling Samantha, most of all, I want to give you the gift of my time.  As fleeting as it is, it is by far the most valuable gift I could give you.  I love you both.  Merry Christmas.

1 comment:

  1. Your children will grow up happy, healthy and well-adjusted! They have awesome parents as examples!